Padma Lakshmi was raped at 16, molested when she was 7

Padma Lakshmi

The model says she thought about sharing the incident as two women came forward accusing Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh

The Hush Post: Famous model and writer Padma Lakshmi has said when she was just 16, a youth raped her. She has revealed that she was dating that man at that time.

The model has shared about her experience by writing a piece for The New York Times newspaper, a report said.

Padma Laxmi’s revelation comes in the backdrop of the sexual assault accusations made against an apex court nominee Brett Kavanaugh.padma lakshmi

Lakshmi has written that she was working in a Los Angeles mall where another employee used to flirt with her. She shares as she also found him charming and handsome, they started dating. After some months, on New Year’s Eve, the youth raped her. She didn’t tell anybody about the incident, not even to her mother, the report said.

Laxmi said that she started thinking about sharing about her rape as two women came forward accusing Brett Kavanaugh. He is an attorney and jurist serving as a US Circuit Judge who is also a Supreme Court nominee.

The 48-year-old model has written: “On Friday, President Trump tweeted that if what Dr Blasey said was true, she would have filed a police report years ago. But I understand why both women would keep this information to themselves for so many years, without involving the police. For years, I did the same thing.”

Laxmi gives details of what happened and how she ended up blaming herself for it. She writes: “We had no language in the 1980s for date rape. I imagined that adults would say: ‘What the hell were you doing in his apartment? Why were you dating someone so much older?’ I don’t think I classified it as rape — or even sex — in my head. I’d always thought that when I lost my virginity, it would be a big deal — or at least a conscious decision. The loss of control was disorienting. In my mind, when I one day had intercourse, it would be to express love, to share pleasure or to have a baby. This was clearly none of those things.”

The model reveals another incident which occurred when she was seven. At that time, her step father’s relative touched her inappropriately. When she told her parents about it they sent her to India to live with her grandparents. She writes that experiences like this affected her ability to trust. “It took me decades to talk about this with intimate partners and a therapist,” she says.

The TV star further writes that she has nothing to gain by talking about it now. But feels if she had told other about it, she might have suffered less. She thinks she left her rapist off the hook and let her 16-year-old self down. “Some say a man shouldn’t pay a price for an act he committed as a teenager. But the woman pays the price for the rest of her life, and so do the people who love her.”

Laxmi writes: “I have a daughter now. She’s 8. For years I’ve been telling her the simplest and most obvious words that it took me much of my life to understand: “If anybody touches you in your privates or makes you feel uncomfortable, you yell loud. You get out of there and tell somebody. Nobody is allowed to put their hands on you. Your body is yours.”

Lakshmi says in her write-up: “I am speaking now because I want us all to fight so that our daughters never know this fear and shame and our sons know that girls’ bodies do not exist for their pleasure and that abuse has grave consequences. Those messages should be very clear as we consider whom we appoint to make decisions on the highest court of our land.”

 

 

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