The Hush Post: Despite living together for 48 years and having children, grand children and even great grand children, 80-year-old Devadas Kalasua from Udaipur had still not married his live-in partner 76-year-old Magdu Bai.
The couple finally took their wedding wows on Tuesday with their children, grand children and great grand children taking part in all the wedding festivities. In fact their descendants had organised the lavish wedding for their grandparents.
Almost five decades back, Devadas Kalasua, son of Deetaram, had eloped with a resident from his neighbouring village Magdu Bai. Despite already married to Champa Bai and even having children, he brought Magdu Bai to his ancestral home.
His first wife Champa Bai later shifted to Phalasiya to live with her sons, but Devadas continued to live with Magdu Bai at his ancestral home.
Despite being in love and even having children, Devadas and Magdu’s relationship had not gained society’s acceptance (`Nyayvata’). Due to this, the couple’s sons decided to initiate the rituals. The children first started by putting forward a proposal to their mother’s relatives back in her village, which was accepted by the other party.
Speaking on this ‘unique’ marriage, Arjunlal, Devadas’s son who is a schoolteacher added: “My parents were yearning for social acceptance by their relatives and hence we decided to initiate all the proceedings to solemnise their wedding.’’
Tuesday saw the ‘Bhanjana’ ritual being performed which entailed that the groom’s party went in a procession to the bride’s home with 50 kg rice. This was accepted by the bride’s relatives, mixed with 10 kg rice and a feast prepared and served to the guests.
The orthodox communities of the bride and groom did not recognise live-in relationships since customs were not accepted by the two families and panchayat members. What added more ‘sweetness’ to the wedding was Devadas’s first wife Champa Bai giving her consent for his second marriage. It was only after this that the wedding proceedings formally started. But due to her ill health, Champa Bai could not formally attend the wedding.